I Don’t Want to Talk About Adoption

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Wednesday, July 14, 2007

I think this is a fun exercise we have been having. It’s been over a year since we have had any kind of serious talk about a baby.

After last week when I was ready to give up on the whole idea, I did some more research. I found a few articles on the subject, some from friends, some from random online sources. I read them all. I even got a few of the articles on CD. It didn’t really do any good.

Then, just as things looked pretty bleak, I found a site that had articles about adoption. Now, I am not saying that I would ever consider using this site, because it’s obviously made for people who want help finding homes for kids. I read them and they were all really depressing. They all told me about adoption that makes me want to cry. They made me realize that I probably shouldn’t do anything that involves a baby.

But, I have to admit that there is something about this topic that has captured my imagination. I started doing some research on what it’s like to be a mother and a foster parent, and I find it really hard to find the positive stuff. I think this is a big reason why I find it hard to actually do anything about a baby for a long time. But, we decided that we were going to keep talking about baby. We’ve talked about her name, her gender, who is going to adopt her, what kind of mother she would be, how long she would live with us, etc… I mean, we were talking about it the first few weeks that we had her. I was just in the middle of thinking about the pros and cons of her being adopted when I opened the magazine the other week. I looked at the pictures of baby and thought – “how could I be more tired of this, and more tired of him”? This is one of those things that everyone should be able to talk about with their children, but it’s just not true.

But, I guess I have to consider the fact that everyone will eventually get tired of a baby that they already have. And, some will get tired of having another kid. Inevitably, as they grow older their children will get older and need to have the attention of

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